Sandra Butler posted  the following words in More and Less—Older mothers with more time yet less contact with middle-aged daughters in Psychology Today:

“I no longer call my daughter, but instead wait to hear from her. That way, I’m certain that she has both the inclination and time to visit. That way, I protect myself against the fear of hearing even the slight hesitation as she adjusts and juggles whatever it was she was planning to do at the moment the phone rang. I don’t trust my spontaneous impulse just to hear her voice but instead send a text or email with a brief update or asking when she has time to talk.

It’s a messy, complicated, never-ending business being a mother. I’m often caught between wanting more of my daughter’s time and not wanting to be seen as demanding or needy by the child I love and miss. And now, for the first time, I wonder about the ways my mother must have missed me. I remember how I fit her into my life when things were slow at work and I could get away to visit for a few days. I never thought about the possibility that she was waiting and hoping for the time I would be free. I never pictured her hearing the phone ring and hoping it was me. I never noticed that she never asked when I would be coming to see her. The same ways I’m careful not to ask now.”  ***

Then she, along with Nan Fink Gefen, opened up a much needed conversation with a wide array of aging mothers about the challenges and adaptations that have emerged over the lifespan of their relationships with their daughters, now middle-aged.

“Women speak out openly about the heartaches & satisfactions of mothering midlife daughters, revealing the difficult issues that arise, the ongoing effects of the past on the present, and the varied and often invisible ways in which they continue mothering. Some struggle with sorrow and guilt about what is missing from their relationships, while others accept the inevitable limitations, forgive themselves and their daughters for mistakes made, and grow to a deeper Other books by Sandra Butler:appreciation of the love that exists.” ***

With honesty & courage, the mothers describe their dance, their rhythm, their contrasting & expanding relationships and the challenges & satisfactions with their daughters. At the end of “It Never Ends” are questions for discussion, where readers are encouraged to share their responses, stories and reflections with others and by contacting Sandra and Nan.

 

For more information about writer, publisher and co-author of “It Never Ends:Mothering Middle-Aged Daughters ,Nan Fink Gefen, visit:  www.nangefen.com

 

To listen to and/or download this segment click the following link:20001_TTEOW 12-18Sandra Butler_program

 

 

Anna and Oliver, big siblings extraordinaire, are here to tell you all about what to expect when your family is expecting—and what life will really be like once a new baby arrives. The dynamic duo cover everything from naptime to stinky diapers and from holding the baby to deciphering your baby’s body language. They even offer up helpful ideas for parents on how to make life as a big brother or sister as filled with fun—and love—as it can be!

So, get ready…get set…time to welcome a new baby!

Bringing home a new baby means change for everyone, and parenting books tend to tell parents how to help siblings adjust – but – What does it look like from their point of view?

 

Elizabeth Rusch is an award-winning freelance writer and former managing editor of Teacher magazine, editor-in- chief of PointsBeyond.com, and contributing editor to Child and Fit Pregnancy. She has published more than 100 articles in numerous national magazines for adults and children. She’s traveled to the oil fields of southern California to report on townspeople who rebelled against computer use in their school. She has interviewed national experts on tons of topics, from the childhood asthma epidemic to how understanding microclimates can help you choose a campsite. She even wore the same pair of hiking socks for 10 days straight, without washing, for a gear review for Backpacker magazine. These days, Liz is focusing on narrative nonfiction, science, art, and travel writing, humor, and essays. Liz loves where she lives in Portland, Oregon, with her husband, two terrific kids, and one very funny, quirky dog named Reba.

 

Illustrator QIN LENG was born in Shanghai, China, and later moved to France and then Montreal, Canada. She now lives in Toronto, Canada, with her twin sister and works as a designer and illustrator. Her father, an artist himself, was a great influence on her. She grew up surrounded by paintings, and it became second nature for her to express herself through art. Qin graduated from the Mel Hoppenheim School of Cinema and has received many awards for her animated short films and other works. From very early on, she has loved to portray the innocence of children and has developed a passion for children’s books.

To listen to and/or download this segment, click the following link: 20001_TTEOW 4-10-17_program

 

 

amanda-portrait-30-510x765What was wrong with Amanda Malachesky? Nobody seemed to know. When her physical and emotional maladies were not mitigated by traditional medicine,  Malachesky started studying nutrition and became her own first client as a nutrition coach.  “Clearly there was more at work in the body than meets the eye,” she says.

Now with many more clients, and a business called Confluence Nutrition, Malachesky discusses the links between what we eat, and how we feel physically, mentally and emotionally. She calls it functional nutrition.

“1 in 2 Americans has a chronic disease, while 1 in 4 has multiple chronic diseases, and a majority of these people are women,” Malachesky said. “The conventional system doesn’t have a plan to help these patients to heal their symptoms. This is where I can fill the gap and provide guidance and detective work to help people get better.”

To listen to/and or download, click hereTTEOW Emma Breacain and Amanda Malachesky


Over the Thanksgiving weekend in 2016, a few weeks after Trump was elected president, Krista Suh was pondering how she could register her discontent and make an impact at the Women’s March scheduled for January, 2017.  In a flash of inspiration, Krista launched the Pussyhat Project to knit pink cat-eared hats to wear at the Women’s March in Washington D.C.  The project went viral and thousands of hats were knitted and worn at demonstrations around the world. The Project’s website states “”We chose this loaded word for our project because we want to reclaim the term as a means of empowerment” and “women, whether transgender or cisgender, are mistreated in this society. In order to get fair treatment, the answer is not to take away our pussies, the answer is not to deny our femaleness and femininity, the answer is to demand fair treatment. A woman’s body is her own. We are honoring this truth and standing up for our rights.” Pink may be considered a feminine color but when hundreds of thousands of protestors around the world create a “sea of pink” the color stands out for feminism, strength and determination to make the world a better place. 

Never one to rest on laurels, Krista decided to write a book after the march.  In five weeks, she completed the draft promoting feminism, creativity and activism. Less than half a year later,  the completed book “DIY Rules for a WTF World: How to Speak Up, Get Creative and Change the World” was published.  You can call this book a manifesto for every woman to create her own distinct path to self confidence and ability to make an impact.  This is a joyous positive book in which Krista shares her tools, tips, experiences and knitting patterns she uses to be inspired,  get creative and  free women and men from the patriarchal “haze” that we all breathe and live with.

 

 

To listen to and/or download this segment, click the following link: TTEOW Corinne Frugoni and Krista Suh

 

 

stulbergAs an Associate Professor of Sociology of Education at New York University, Lisa Stulberg quickly learned that many of her students had little to no understanding of the history of gay rights in the U.S. Those who were a little more informed were still surprised to learn that the struggle began well before the historic Stonewall uprising of 1969, and continues beyond recent achievements in marital equality. What, you didn’t know that?

In this episode, Stulberg discusses her book LGBTQ Social Movements, and weaves the fight for gay rights together with the movements that inspired it, and the movements it inspires,  drawing clear lines showing how every marginalized group working for social justice can learn something from the other warriors in the trenches.

 

To listen to and/or download this segment click the following link:Lisa Stulbery 4-9-18

 

Author, Coach, Trainer KATRINA MCGHEE

 

Katrina McGhee is a self professed God girl. Her book Loving On Me , inspired by her own journey of transformation, is designed to help others embrace the “Me” they were created to be. She talks with host Brenda Starr about the following question:

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO, BUT IT’S TIME TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT?

In Loving on Me, Katrina McGhee reveals the answers that allow you to access the “more” that God has in store for you. She hopes you’ll discover how you too can embrace faith, release fear, and experience the fullness of life for which you were designed.

 

Katrina McGhee is a woman of faith who isn’t afraid to put it into action. As an advocate, entrepreneur and social-responsibility pioneer, she’s spent more than 20 years working with America’s leading charities to improve the health and well being of women and children around the world. Through her blog and release of her new book Loving on Me she’s also taking on a new role, as a revolutionary passionate about unleashing the transformative power of God’s love.

For more than two decades, Katrina McGhee has been a champion for women. Having served on the executive level for two of the world’s largest non-profit organizations, the American Heart Association and Susan G. Komen for the Cure, she has traveled around the globe, advocating for and inspiring women in more than 12 countries on 3 continents.
In 2012 she embarked on a new adventure, channeling her passion for women’s empowerment into launching Loving on Me, a global movement encouraging women from every walk of life to love themselves and each other more.

For more information you can visit: http://www.KatrinaMcGhee.com , or  www.lovingonme.com

Katrina McGhee , her books, blog, posts on FaceBook, Twitter, Instagram @iamlovingme

To listen to and/or download this segment click the following link:20001_TTEOW-Katrina McGhee 3-26_programs

Posted by: Through the Eyes of Women | March 23, 2018

The Logic of Faith, Elizabeth Mattis Namgyel, March 19, 2018

“The wisdom of pratityasamutpada, or dependent arising functions like a portal into a completely new way of understanding your mind and it’s world, based on direct experience.” Elizabeth Mattis Namgyel, Buddhist author and teacher explains this early Buddhist teaching, as well as offers guided meditations in her newly released book published by Shambhala Publications. Through the Eyes of Women host Danielle Orr and Elizabeth then go on to talk about faith, as Elizabeth believes faith is a topic which is in desperate need of examination.

From Elizabeth’s website: You could call me an author and a Buddhist teacher, but in truth, I am just asking myself questions about the human condition out loud. I see myself more as a student – always learning, fiercely probing, fascinated with the challenges of being human and the great potential for awakening.

I often stop and ask myself: “Who am I to teach this profound and vast tradition that has been passed down from teacher to student in an unbroken lineage from the time of the Buddha?” I don’t mean this in a self-effacing way, but rather as a way of being honest with myself about where I am with my study and practice. I feel a sense of humility and awe in the face of these teachings. I can recognize my own limitations and also the vastness of my own potential, and I am grateful to see both.

Elizabeth has been guided by her teacher, Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche, who descends from a pure lineage of the Dzogpa Chenpo Longchen Nyingtik tradition of Tibetan Buddhism. Elizabeth has an academic background in both Anthropology and Buddhist Studies, but her learning is also grounded in practice. After many years of solitary retreat, Rinpoche appointed Elizabeth as Retreat Master at Longchen Jigme Samten Ling, Mangala Shri Bhuti’s retreat center in southern Colorado. Elizabeth is also the author of The Power of An Open Question.

On this edition of Through the Eyes of Women, The Logic of Faith, A Buddhist Approach To Finding Certainty Beyond Belief and Doubt. elizabethmattisnamgyel.com for teaching schedule and more information.

To listen to and/or download this segment click the following link: Logic of Faith 3.19.18

Kemba Shakur founded the nonprofit Urban Releaf in 1998 with the goal of transforming some of the poorest most barren parts of Oakland into friendly verdant neighborhoods with tree lined streets. In a previous life, Kemba worked as a prison guard at Soledad and ironically noted that there were more trees on the grounds of the prison than on the street that she lived on in Oakland. Since moving to Oakland and starting Urban Releaf, over 20,000 trees have been planted in various neighborhoods in Oakland and Richmond.
Part of Kemba’s childhood was spent growing up in Hunter’s Point in San Francisco with her mother and 5 brothers and sisters.  Her mother would take the whole family on hikes and backpacking trips to some of the national and state parks and passed on an appreciation of nature’s beauty to Kemba.
Kemba sees planting trees, growing gardens and sharing her love of nature as only one aspect of improving communities.  Equally important  is a strong sense of social and environmental justice.  She refers to the MacArthur Maze, simply called “Maze” which reportedly is the world’s largest freeway interchange and is part of 880.  The 880 freeway has at least twice as much pollution because trucks cannot go on the part of 580 that traverses the wealthier hills of Oakland. Poorer residents, many of whom are people of color inhabit neighborhoods within short distances of the Maze.  There is one elementary school practically contiguous with this freeway interchange and a higher incidence of asthma has been documented among the students. Urban Releaf is applying for a grant to plant thousands of trees along the freeway which will reduce pollution and dampen the noise from the thousands of trucks and cars that traverse the freeway.
Urban Releaf survives on grants that barely cover the costs of the trees, equipment and the salaries of the many adolescents Kemba hires. She is committed to educating youth about planting, care and maintenance of trees and in so doing, teaching them the skills necessary to get a job and advance careers.
Interestingly as the neighborhoods start to look better with trees, people start talking to each other, walking the streets and generally looking after each other.  Communities are revitalized.  There is a flip side.  Real estate prices go up and some of the original residents have to move out.  The streets become greener and the residents paler.  But Kemba adamantly maintains that it is vitally important to continue to plant trees.  She shares her love of trees in a poem she wrote:
There’s a tree that grows in Oakland.
It’s not just any tree, it’s a poor man’s tree.
It’s a tree that grows out of cracks in the sidewalk,
and out of abandoned lots, or discarded tires,
and if you cut off its trunk, it’ll just come back.
To behold such a tree is a magnificent sight,
trees that survive no matter what.
To listen to and/or download this segment click the following link: 

 

IMG_2294“Fuck you, you don’t know me.” That’s what Star Pahl would have said, had she been able to talk, to the doctor who told her she was never going to regain movement of her right arm. Ten months later, the busy single mother of two can talk and walk and use her arm very well, thank you.

If you’re lucky enough to have medical insurance in America, and you’re somewhat healthy and somewhat young, you’re aces. Right? Perhaps you’ll have a health catastrophe, and you might even rack up some debt, but you’ve got insurance. Things are going to be dealt with. How bad can it get?

Well.

Maybe young and healthy you will wake up tomorrow knowing something is horribly wrong. Maybe you’re having a stroke at the tender age of 39.

Find that insurance card.

Call a friend with your one working hand.

Try to form the words to ask for help.

Get a quick ride to the hospital, and….

And…..

And nothing. That unfortunately is what Star Pahl got from her insurance-paid medical providers when it happened to her last year.

Despite her outrageously positive attitude and feisty spirit, Pahl’s insurance-paid doctors gave up on her almost immediately, leaving her alone in an examining room for several of those critical early hours when treatment makes all the difference. Failing to diagnose the stroke for three and a half months. Leaving her on her own to teach herself to speak and move again, so she could call other specialists and ask for the help she was not getting. “If I left it up to [my physicians], I’d be dead,” Pahl says.

Fortunately, Pahl ultimately decided this was all just wonderful. She found astounding reserves of grit, resilience, and positivity that allowed her to embrace the experience and begin healing. She’ll tell you it’s a wonderful thing that has happened to her. She’ll tell you it has taught her to accept the love that was always so easy to give and hard to take. And since this attitude is pretty much the only thing that kept her alive and got her walking and talking again, you just might believe her.

Pahl is currently drawing on her personal experience to become a traveling spokesperson for the “alternative” methods – cannabinoids in particular – that are healing her body and spirit, and she’s hoping her story encourages rapid change in the American medical industry as we know it.

Listen to Pahl explain the tremendous journey of this past year and why she insists “I love my stroke.”

To listen to and/or download this segment click the following link: TTEOW Emma interviews Star 5-30-16

This show was originally broadcast on May 30, 2016

Here are some of Star’s favorite resources:

Amber French~

www.petals-of-peace.net

 

Marjorie Auckland~

Creating Heaven on Earth

www.herbalightonics.com

 

Jamie Kessloff~

Acutonics & Massage Therapies, Reiki, Yoga Classes, Nutritional and Life Coaching, CranioSacral.

www.LivingOurDivinity.com

 

Kausalya Denise Payne-Ollivier~

www.reikimastertouch.com

 

Maya Copper~

www.isisscrolls.com

 

Joshua Hanna~ Holistic Evolution

www.holistic-evolution.com

 

Alyssa Melody~Traditional Chinese Medicine, Acupuncture and Herbal Medicine

www.AcupunctureHumboldt.com

 

Stanford Stroke Center~

www.med.stanford.edu

 

Care By Design

www.cbd.org

Martain A. Lee~ author of Smoke Signals

www.Projectcbd.com

 

 

Jacqueline Dandeneau is the Executive Director of Arcata Playhouse.  Last year she appeared on TTEOW to discuss a new Festival called Zero To Fierce to discuss this magnanimous week of Discovery, Inspiration and Creativity.

Presented by PLAYHOUSE ARTS, Jacqueline Dandeneau & Sarah McKinney will explain, define and tickle your fancy with showcased Events, Workshops, Classes, Entertainment and so much more.

 

You can get a snapshot of the 02F Festival below:

 

 

 

For additional information about ALL the Events, Free and Otherwise by visiting:

http://www.zerotofierce.com    or the 02F FaceBook page or contact the Playhouse at zertofierce@gmail.com or calling 707-822-1575

To listen to/or download this segment, click the following link:20001_TTEOW -Zero to Fierce 2-26_programs

 

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