When her daughter graduated high school, Becky Blades collected all those last minute nuggets of motherly wisdom that occur to a parent when their kid has one foot out the door, and sent them to her daughter as a long email. Not long after, with the encouragement of her kids and family, Blades expanded her email into an illustrated book of life advice for young adults called “Do Your Laundry Or You’ll Die Alone.”


The dire title seems quite reasonable when Blades explains it, that if we walk around town  in our second best clothes while our favorites lie neglected and smelly in a hamper, we may not have the confidence we need to capture that dream date, dream job, dream situation, when those opportunities present themselves.

Blades’ advice to newly minted grownups quickly extends outside the home and into the world of practical finances, dating, driving, grammar, etiquette and psychology (“#36: A Bad Attitude Makes Your Butt Look Big”) all accompanied by her own mixed media collage art and nary an eyeroll nor a sigh of “kids today.”

Blades talks to Through The Eyes Of Women about the evolving definition of adulthood and the nature of giving and receiving advice, and whether the kids really are all right.

Is your favorite outfit clean right now?

To learn more about Becky Blades go to her website www.beckybladesart.com.

To listen to and/or download Emma’s conversation with Becky Blades click the following link:     6-2-2104 Emma Becky Blades




We are who we are, or are we?  We’re learning that there are about 100 trillion microbes in and on our bodies, outnumbering human cells 10 to 1. But as Laura Cox tells us, we don’t need to worry cause as many microbes as inhabit our shell, they only make up about 3-4 pounds of our body weight as adults. It appears that they exert an influence on our health as great and possibly even greater than the genes we inherit from our parents. By far, the largest contingent of these microbial beings live in our gut.

AS-277712338997256@1443223189295_lLaura Cox has spent a large part of her life studying microbes. Working in a lab at the Langone Medical Center at New York University,  she found that a brief, low dose of antibiotics shortly after birth can have long-lasting consequences on the gut microbes in mice and lead to obesity later in life.  Although this study was limited to mice the results agree with multiple other studies pointing toward significant effects on children exposed to antibiotics early in life. At this time, the average child in the United States receives 10 courses of the drugs by the age of 10.  It appears that the nature of our gut microbiome is contributing to the current obesity epidemic.  Does this mean that we capitulate to the trillions of bacteria living in our gut while we grab a donut or add a second scoop of ice cream to that sundae?

The composition of our microbiome evolves throughout our entire life, from birth to old age, and is the result of many different environmental influences – the foods we eat, the drugs we take, how and where we work and play, whether we were breastfed or formula fed, whether we were born vaginally or via a caesarian, where we live and who we live with.  And the composition of our microbiome influences our body habitus, our behavior, our immune system, our health. There was a time not so long ago that we didn’t even know that invisible microbes existed, to a more recent belief that it was us against them, to the beginnings of an understanding that these microbes govern and define who we are. Laura’s work contributes to the growing body of knowledge about the ecology of our microbiome and ways in which we can improve our own health.

So who’s writing this blog-me or my microbiome?   gutbugs310

To listen to and or download this segment click the following link.

Amy_Stewart_Delightful_Eye_Photography_3800_Cropped_WebEureka, CA author Amy Stewart is known around the world as the author of non-fiction books; funny explorations of plants and gardening such as The Drunken Botanist, Wicked Plants and Flower Confidential.  Her first published novel (she has others, un-published, stashed away in various places) was released by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt on September 1, 2015. Girl Waits With Gun is a work of historical fiction based on the real-life Kopp sisters of New Jersey.  Amy accidently ran across an article about the eldest Kopp sister, Miss Constance, while researching her last book, The Drunken Botanist.



The title Girl Waits With Gun, is ripped straight from an actual 1915 newspaper headline.  Amy describes her new book as a fun romp, filling out the story of the Kopp sisters and their head-on collision with a drunken and corrupt silk-mill owner in 1914.  Constance, the main character of the book, stands up for herself and her family in remarkable ways for a lady of that era.

And Amy plans to keep the Kopp sisters in the public eye with more adventures on the way.

Her Eureka, CA book event, the 21st in a 26 event tour, will take place at the Eureka Theater on Saturday October 3, 2015 at 5:00 PM.  Amy has invented a cocktail true to the New Jersey setting of Girl Waits With Gun.  The New Jersey Automobile made with New Jersey applejack, jam for, as Amy says, “a little sweetness and color,” topped off with champagne will be available at the event, along with a slide show and book signing.

To listen to and/or download Kathleen’s conversation with Amy click the following link:       9-28-2015 Kathleen_Amy Stewart 




ann-gadzikowskiWake up, feed your family, go to work, pay some bills, run some errands, do some chores, feed your family again. Did you remember to play today?
Most of us understand the importance of recreation for adults as well as children, and we know we benefit from playtime physically, mentally and emotionally. But if you are a 21st century superparent, you might still have questions. You might wonder if you’re doing it “right.” Is your kid playing enough? Is your kid playing too much? Have they got the right kinds of toys? Are you sure you’re doing this right?   Relax, Gadzikowski reminds us, this is about fun.

In her new book “Creating A Beautiful Mess, Ten Essential Play Experiences for a51W-UOTM7gL__SX331_BO1,204,203,200_ Joyous Childhood,” Early Childhood Educator Ann Gadzikowski has identified no less than ten different categories of play! Everything from cuddling a teddy bear to building with blocks to – yes – creating a beautiful mess, has a place in your kid’s well being and development, and maybe yours, too.

Gadzikowski advocates the importance of outdoor time, while offering pointers to maximize the experience even if you don’t happen to live near a scenic park or beach or forest or trail. She’s got opinions on the dreaded screen time debate, and ideas for encouraging your kids to explore play categories they might have been missing.

Let’s have some fun. The mess can wait till later.

To listen to and/or download Emma’s conversation with Ann Gadzikowski click the following link:     9-21-2015 Emma_Ann Gadzikowski 

EFORcover_web800px-200x280“Food is all around us.  The way my mother said it was lovely, meaningful, and true.  It was as true in the early 1940s, the years of my childhood, as it is today, more than seventy years later  she would tell me this when I followed along as she tended the plants in her Victory garden:  that we Indians would never starve.  This wasn’t because of the precious vegetables she carefully raised in her garden, but because there is food all around us.  All we had to do was know when to collect and how to prepare the many foods that are created for us and all the other living beings living here.  There is enough for all.”  –Kathleen Rose Smith from her book  “Enough For All, Foods Of My Dry Creek Pomo And Bodega Miwuk People, ” published by Heyday Press in 2014.

Kathleen Rose Smith (Bodega Miwuk/Dry Creek Pomo) is a member of the Federated Indians of Graton Rancheria. She grew up in the Healdsburg area. searchHer book “Enough For All”  draws on knowledge accumulated and handed down through generations of Southern Pomo tribes.  The book celebrates California Indian food gathering and preparation, and the social and spiritual aspects as well. Kathleen Smith’s family stories, recipes and philosophy are interspersed with her original artwork creating a small gem that pays tribute to generations of Indian people living in their ancestral homelands.

The cover photo of the book pictured at the top are of wild grapes gathered by Kathleen Rose Smith in 1979 in the homeland of her mother Lucy Lozinto Smith (Mihilakawna Pomo), along Warm Springs Creek, which is now beneath the waters of Lake Sonoma behind Warm Springs Dam.  The grapes sit atop a basket made by prominent basket weaver Elsie Allen (Makahmo Pomo) as a fiftieth wedding anniversary present for the author’s parents.

To listen to and/or download this segment click the following link:4-27-2015 Corinne_Kathleen Smith Final

10750459_10204946272034657_610065397838762919_oTrite as it may be to pine for some soft-focus idea of “the good old days,” it may still be reasonable to look around your neighborhood and ask, “is it me, or are there fewer kids on the streets than there used to be?”

It’s not you. The numbers of kids who get to walk or bike to school – getting crucial exercise and outdoor time, building life skills, and having fun – has declined dramatically over recent generations. Why? Has the world gotten scarier? Have parents gotten more protective? What’s going on?

Redwood Community Action Agency’s resource planning division is engaged in projects throughout Humboldt County to promote the infrastructure and education that will keep our towns’ streets safe and usable for our kids. In today’s show, RCAA’s Emily Sinkhorn and Jenny Weiss talk about the individual and community benefits of providing safe routes to school for all of Humboldt’s kids.

For more information about the programs that will get your kid to and from school safely, follow these handy links:




To listen to and/or download this interview click on the following link:20001_TTEOW 9-7-2015 Emma Jenny Weiss Emily Sinkhorn Safe Routes_PROGRAMS

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unnamedThe Department of Labor was founded in 1913 during William Howard Taft’s Presidency.  Since then it has established the 8 hours a day work rule, limited work time to 40 hours per week, except in some professions, overtime pay, unemployment and job training services and the CCC.  It enforces and can change labor law.

There is a threshold for overtime pay, currently set at $23,660 dollars. Workers making less than that can be eligible for overtime pay for work over 40 hours.  But many working at or just over the threshold do not get overtime pay.  The Department of Labor, at President Obama’s direction, is considering raising that threshold over the next two years to $50,440 per year.logo

In a new report, entitled “How the New Overtime Rule Will Help Women & Families,” co-authored by MomsRising.org and The Institute for Women’s Policy Research, the new proposed rule change is examined.  The good news is that 3.2 million women, almost half of whom are Black, Hispanic and/or working single moms, will benefit.

picture-23606-1422989945Kristin Rowe-Finkbeiner explains why and how.

For more information about MomsRising and the report visit the website momsrising.org.

To listen to and/or download click the following link:  8-31-15 TTEOW

GodsHotel_CVF-200x300In God’s Hotel: a Doctor, a Hospital, and a Pilgrimage to the Heart of Medicine Victoria Sweet raises fundamental questions about the current practice of medicine based on her observations and work for twenty years at Laguna Honda Hospital in San Francisco, the last almshouse in this country. Her book has wonderful portraits of individual patients, whom Sweet came to care about deeply.  The time spent with them along with her scholarly research on Hildegard of Bingen, a 12th century nun and healer gradually allowed Victoria to understand the body as a garden to be tended, not just a machine to be fixed.

She believes that modern medicine has superb scientific tools to treat diseases but time constraints and efficiency have piggybacked onto technological progress. Patients may be cured of their diseases, but they are on their own to find their way back to feeling better and balanced. Dr. Sweet maintains that medicine works best when the doctor has enough time to sit, listen and examine.  With time, a physician can treat a disease and hopefully contribute towards healing the patient. Dr. Sweet calls this approach “Slow Medicine” and she believes that if this approach became more standard, it would be more satisfying for both patient and doctor as well as less expensive.

She has said that “in the last 20 years, in the interest of efficiency, the time doctors spend with patients has been cut down to the bone. On average they have 10 minutes to spend with a patient, of which three minutes go to the electronic health records. So we basically have seven minutes to spend with a patient. We doctors really want to connect, but by the time the patient gets him or herself on the examining table, we’re down to four minutes. So if I had to summarize in one sentence, I’d say that slow medicine is about having a personal relationship between doctor and patient. I get as much out of it as the patient does. It’s a healing relationship that goes both ways.”

The New York Times calls her ideas “hard-core subversion,” Vanity Fair writes a “radical and compassionate alternative to modern medicine,” and Health Affairs describes Dr. Sweet as a “visionary.”

To listen to and/or download Corinne’s conversation with Dr. Victoria Sweet click the following link:     1-12-2015 Corinne_Victoria Sweet 





ertmanWe have the best of intentions. We do. We can declare our love. We can promise to always be there. Sometimes we might even promise to always do the dishes when our partner cooks. And of course, we mean it when we say it.

But are you willing to back that up in writing, partner?

In her new book Love’s Promises: How Formal and Informal Contracts Shape All Kinds of Families, contract law professor Martha Ertman examines the legal agreements and less formal “deals” that can add harmony to our intimate relationships and maybe mitigate some of the pain and confusion if those relationships end.

While Loves Promises has a lot of great get-along principles that we can apply to many areas of our lives, it is primarily geared toward the modern “blended” families that are becoming increasingly ordinary, termed “Plan B Families” by Ertman. As such, it can function almost as a handbook for securing solid understanding between co-parents, stepfamilies, and same sex partners.

In today’s show, Ertman talks about her own Plan B Family and how her judicious use of contracts keeps it humming. And since her book’s publication nearly coincided with the Supreme Court’s historic decision legalizing same sex marriages, Ertman addresses the impact she anticipates for existing unions. Naturally, we expect a sequel to Love’s Promises must be in the works already.

To listen to and/or download this interview click on the following link:20001_TTEOW 8-17-2015 Emma Martha Ertman Love’s Promises FINAL MONO_PROGRAMS

Annie Lanzillotto

Annie Lanzillotto

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      Annie Lanzillotto was born and raised in the Westchester Square neighborhood of the Bronx. moving to Yonkers with her mother when she was ten years old.  Yet, despite the move, despite her B.A. with honors from Brown University in medical anthropology, despite her world travels, despite her MFA in writing from Sarah Lawrence University, despite her two bouts with cancer, Annie proudly remains an Italian Bronx butch icon.

L is for Lion: An Italian Bronx Butch Freedom Memoir chronicles Annie’s life from her earliest memories in her parent’s home in the Bronx, through her current on-going work with cancer patients at New York’s Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center.  Hers is a remarkable story of love and perseverance in the face of adversaries such as domestic violence, drug abuse, intolerance, misogyny, and cancer.  It is filled with Italian-American Bronxisms, and is written with a distinctly Bronx accent.


“Annie’s adventures as a Bronx-born tomboy are one-of-a-kind. The writing is exuberant and lyrical; the characterization masterful. Told with pathos, wit, and unflagging energy. If you’re looking for a memoir in high-definition surround sound, look no further.”— Margaux Fragoso, author of Tiger,Tiger: A Memoir

“It’s a book made of dismantled padlocks, and of doors, opened and closed; of spoons clanking against radiators in an attempt to speak or scream; of Ivy League classism and World War II racism; of language ‘spoken and broken.’ Equal parts humor, guts, and grief, it’s a disarming story of all that a person—body, mind, and soul—can undergo without going under, in which ‘Bronxite’ is a new kind of rock.” — Mary Cappello, author of Awkward: A Detour and Called Back.

To listen to and/or download this interview click on the following link:8-3-15 rebroadcast


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