Posted by: Through the Eyes of Women | December 27, 2011

December 26, 2011 Host Kathleen Marshall Presents a Conversation with Feminist Author Jaclyn Friedman About Her New Book; What You Really, Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety.

Jaclyn Friedman is a feminist activist and author. Her last book published in 2008, Yes Means Yes: Visions of Sexual Power and a World Without Rape, became one of Publishers’ Weekly’s top 100 books of 2009, and was listed as #11 in Ms. Magazine’s list of Top 100 Feminist Non-Fiction of All Time.
As an undergraduate at Wesleyan University Jaclyn became the victim of a sexual assault. Though always interested in social justice issues, the assault served to focus Jaclyn’s interests in the areas of sexual activism and gender justice. Graduating from Wesleyan in 1993, she went on to earn an MFA in creative writing from Emerson College and founded Media, Action and Women (WAM), a national organization working for gender justice in media.

With her latest book, What You Really, Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety, Jaclyn hopes to help gender-identified women of all ages, from those with sex on their someday list to sexually experienced veterans, learn how the Terrible Trio, shame, blame and fear, influences their lives, their decision-making, their choices, and ultimately, their pleasure. It is a self-help book about sexuality that is not a typical how-to book. Rather than offering advice about positions to please your partner, she focuses on the bigger issue of how to please oneself. How do we as women figure out who we are, what we want and what we need? How do we communicate our desires and boundaries safely and effectively?

Jaclyn developed this book with the help of 11 individuals with various sexual orientations, gender identifications and of differing ethnicities. As her creative ‘think-tank’ they were committed to looking at their own issues and using the exercises that accompany each chapter to differentiate between the ways they have been socialized to think and what they really think.

What You Really, Really Want is truly shame-free. Jaclyn passes no judgment other than to condemn gender injustice. This 55-year old reader found it thought-provoking, insightful and helpful. For me, this book is a keeper and will gain a spot on my favorites shelf.

For more information about Jaclyn, WAM and gender justice issues visit her website.

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